The absence of someone you care about can be really disorienting and odd. But, like someone told me today, if we pay attention to that space, it can be enlightening, and teach us just how we care for that person and what they mean to us. Which in turn can be empowering, because you realise that it isn't that you can't function without them -- because of course you can, even if you feel kind of miserable and low and weird and just a little out of sorts -- but that their absence makes known spaces that they cushion or buffer. Those are spaces in you that you can learn from, just like fear is a space that can be clarifying in unveiling those hidden unspoken things, desires and promises, failures and catastrophes, memories or anticipations.
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